My husband and I were invited to visit the San Diego Church of Christ, there I saw marriages were the people appeared happy and in love with each other and for the first time I got a vision of love for my marriage.
Sixteen years later I found the secret to what I had witness in these marriages that I looked up to, the secret to submitting to my husband, to be madly in love with him, to enjoy everyday God gives me with him. The secret laid in loving God more than my husband, the more I did that the more I feel in love with Cory, and 20 years later I could not wait to celebrate that love. So we began to plan, we picked the ballroom and sent out invitations. Friends from out of town purchased their tickets. It was going to be awesome.
I always had a vision to do a special choreographed dance with my hubby on stage, we are not professional dancers but we love to dance. We decided to choreograph one to the song, Time of my life. We practiced for a month 2 to 3 times a week. We decided to keep our dance a surprise, only our children knew, they critiqued us every time we practiced and shared how we could do better. One day during a Bible study with a dear friend, I shared our surprise. Well my friends Jodi, Marlin and I began to dream of the dance, they suggested Cory and I change for the dance, we laughed and practice a way I could make a grand entrance.. Jodi suggested we see her dance instructor to fine tune any thing we may have missed in the dance. They knew everything about the dance just not the dance itself, that I kept secret.
Hubby and I went to the dance instructor, after showing her our piece, she was in tears, her exact words, "guys this is beautiful I don't want to change it, if I do I will mess it up because your dance shows how in love you are with each other, it tells a beautiful story, all I will do is give you a few hints on where to place your body in front of your audience." I was blown away by her response which made me even more exited and nervous about performing our dance in front of our friends. We continued to practice and have a lot of fun doing it. Often our daughter would sit and watch us and score us. I love her putting up signs that said you score a 100%, the boys will say things like "mom let dad lead you" which was convicting, the memories we built during this time are priceless. I sometimes which I would have a camera on in my house 24hours so I can replay my favorite scenes of life in the Hudson household.
Six weeks to go for the big day when I receive a phone call from my husband saying, "honey I hurt myself playing basketball, someone is driving me to the hospital." I immediately wanted to cry, not because my husband was hurt but because I knew deep in my heart, no dance for us. I fought to not be angry but I was. As I entered the ER, I decided to be loving and concern for him, which I did. I worked hard at not making him feel bad but inside I was falling apart, as I saw that he could not move his right foot up and down, diagnosis: rupture of Achilles tendon. We didn't know how bad the rupture was but it didn't look good. That night I comforted my husband, he was so mad at himself, because before he went to play I said please don't hurt yourself, I cried inside trying to surrender to the fact that we may not be able to have our party, have our dance. I prayed and held inside my feelings.
The next day the X-ray results showed a deep rupture so surgery was necessary, recovery time about 3months. My husband looked at me as to say I am so sorry. I looked back and replied with my eyes I know but I am so sad.
After the surgery he was still very optimistic, he will say "honey we will do our dance" and he worked hard to recover but I knew he would not be on his two feet that day.
After my prayer I was honest with my husband and shared that I was upset over this whole situation but I love him and I know he would never had wanted to disappoint me. I told him I am exited to celebrate our anniversary because I love him, I just need him to get well so he can at least be in crouches. So I needed him to sit down a bit and listen to doctors instructions. We cried and prayed together, and found a renewed vision for our celebration. Walter Channel, our MC, suggested that we write down what marriage has meant for us over the past 20 years, record it and then play the video at the party. I was exited I could not wait to see what my husband said (what he said was perfect! ).
Over the next few weeks hubby was looking better in strength, he said "honey we can do our dance", I didn't want to get exited but was I willing to try. We remember seeing someone with a one leg scooter, so we envisioned him dancing on one leg with the scooter. We used a chair on wheels at our house to see if it it could work; seeing the potential, we placed an order for the scooter and the medical insurance paid for it!
Over the next few days our kids thought that was crazy but watched the process evolve. We practiced with the chair while we waited for the scooter to arrive. We practice with the chair with the hope that the scooter would work. We were having so much fun. Once the scooter arrived we tried it and we were able to dance with it. It added a different level of fun and spice to the the dance. Our kids watched us again as we practiced, but this time with the scooter, they gave us tips as they did before, our oldest said, I think the scooter makes the dance more special. The more we practiced with the scooter the more I continued to fall in love with my husband and enjoy my family as we built unforgettable memories.
After practicing we decided to do it for our party, we showed the dance instructor and she cried again, she said "oh my gosh you guys are awesome", and gave us some pointers on how to position the scooter. As I danced with my husband my heart was so connected to his that I forgot the scooter was there.
The day of the party came, friends flew in, the place was beautifully set up, there was a lot of laughter and lots of tears. It truly was a celebration of love. The time came for us to do our dance; we ran to change, since hubby was in crutches, the whole time during the party our friends didn't expect us to dance at all (we kept the scooter a secret!). I didn't even give my girls Jodi and Marlin the update. The moment came, hubby walked in took over the microphone from Walter who was doing a great job keeping our guests entertained at their tables while we went off to change. Cory said a few words about us meeting and our 20 year journey, he then asked our 16 year old son to bring out the scooter, as my husband finalize his sharing of how we met and ended it by saying, "I have had the time of my life the past 20years", I walked in wearing my beautiful lime green dress that matched my husband's lime green shirt. I felt overwhelmed that at last, I was going to have my Cinderella dance with my soulmate. As my eyes connected with his, tears filled my eyes as I remembered the past 20years of our marriage and the love I felt for the man standing in front of me, the ways we have embraced each other in the good and the bad. The music played and we danced...and danced. The room was like a symphony, I felt like it was only him and I in a room surrounded by a cloud of people witnessing our love. In a part of the song I climbed on the scooter, spread my arms out, laid my head back and he spun me around, I felt like I was flying and as I flew, a rush of emotions hit me as I was grateful for the hands embracing me, the hands that had embraced me the past 20years, the hands of my husband. We had the time of our life, we are still having the time of our life's.
The story doesn't end there, 3 months later hubby developed an infection from his surgery and had to have another one, and then another one. Right now (August 2, 2012) I am at the hospital with my awesome husband, he is sound asleep, I stayed here last night. He had his fourth surgery yesterday I pray this is the last. As I think about this adventure, I have learned so much in the process, God does work for the good of those who love him, our party was amazing, my best friends were there, our spiritual and biological families were there, some of my husbands shipmates were there, a couple of our children's teacher was there, we didn't only do our dance but so much more.
We celebrated our love that day on April 21, 2012 and it was grandiose. As I lay here in the bed near my husband I thank God for coming into our life's and giving me a vision for what I didn't have 20 years ago, a vision for what I use to believe was impossible, a marriage that is truly amazing where love never fails. I thank God for putting people in our life's to teach us His desire for marriage and teaching us to hold unto Luke 18:27, " What is impossible with man is possible with God". I thank God for teaching me to follow my husband's leadership and for teaching my husband to appreciate my words of wisdom. I thank God for my box of chocolates and I pray that whatever the next flavor is I will remain near Him (God) as I eat it!!!!