I never knew that in volunteering to do something fun, there was a lesson that my teen boys and I would learn about following the rules and standing up for those who do what is right.
I am always looking for ways to organize things that will bring families together to have a great time, so I decided to organize a talent show for my church. I felt that our youth has a desire to be accepted and at times they can feel that, unless they act a certain way, listen to certain music, or sing certain songs, they are not accepted. So I began to plan a talent show for the kids in my church for ages 8 to 18.
You may ask yourself what life lesson could you possibly learn from organizing a talent show; well, I didn’t think I would either until it happen.
For the talent show, my friend and I came up with a set of rules and guidelines. These rules and guidelines were not only written but verbalize.
One of the most important rules was that we must approve any act prior to the dress rehearsals.
Unfortunately, there was a situation that had some miscommunication, and on the day of the dress rehearsal there was one song to be used in teen dance group routine that I had not heard, I had heard the first song on the CD but not the second song.
I wondered what I should do, I had to think quick, so I quickly went to the sound crew and had them turn of the song and went to the kids quietly and said “guys this song was not approve so I can’t let you do this part.” Well, you would think that it should’ve been obvious that I had to do since I didn’t know what the song was about.
I knew I would have to go back and talk to the kids and their parents about what happened. But what I hadn’t counted on, was needing to talk to my own children. I believed that they would understand; but to my surprise, they felt that I should’ve let the song play and then deal with it later.
After much talking, one of my sons felt like his friends would be upset with him even though they knew they would have done the same thing, but it was more important to him to be at peace with their friends even if his friends had not considered one important rule. My husband and I talked to them about the importance of standing up for what is right, even if it cost you your friendship. They eventually realized it. It was so awesome to hear my oldest son come and say “ Mom I’m sorry, if I were in your shoes I would have done the same thing, I was only thinking about me, you said you didn’t want any surprises as far as acts on stage and if you had let the song play it will have gone against the rule that was set, plus you didn’t know if it was a good or bad song, so you kind of didn’t have a choice.” He then gave me a big hug and said, “I love you mom.”
I learned that sometimes doing what is right may be challenging in the moment, however I must always remember that doing what is right is always best.
One more thing, people will respect you. The same set of kids called me two days before the event because they wanted to add a title to their song and they wanted to make sure I knew it.